The Pratfall Effect :

In social psychology, the pratfall effect is the tendency for attractiveness to increase or decrease after an individual makes a mistake, depending on the individual’s perceived competence, or ability to perform well in a general sense. A perceived competent individual would be, on average, more likable after committing a blunder, while the opposite would occur if a perceived average person makes a mistake.

Effects of pratfall are most directly applicable to males. Women tend to prefer the non-blunderer regardless of gender, and although findings of pratfall cannot be readily generalized to female populations, neither population preferred the mediocre blunderer.

We tend to like people who make mistakes more :

Apparently, making mistakes actually makes us more likeable, due to something called “The Pratfall Effect”.

Those who never make mistakes are perceived as less likeable than those who commit the occasional faux pas. Messing up draws people closer to you, makes you more human.

This theory was tested by psychologist Elliot Aronson. In his test, he asked participants to listen to recordings of people answering a quiz. Select recordings included the sound of the person knocking over a cup of coffee. When participants were asked to rate the quizzers on likability, the coffee-spill group came out on top.

Experimental data suggests the pratfall effect is best explained by self-comparison between blunderers and observers in addition to the observer’s desires for accurate self-evaluations.

Swapping , Groping (swinging)

In India, Since 2005 .

However it is surprisingly common and successful for many of those who go down the road ! I think there is actually some biological basis for having such desires having to do with diversifying the genes in a group. We are mostly monogamous but with powerful tugs to wander (both men and women).

Conclusion : Couples who go for swapping generally lack an emotional connect with their partner and have trust issues in the relationship. In the long run, these people get a feeling of chronic emptiness, which may get them addicted to alcohol or drugs. They may also fall victim to depression. As for couples who are parents, it can be disastrous for their children.

How To Support Your Wife Emotionally :

Dear Husbands,
Is your wife having a bad day or bad days? Have you stopped to really think and evaluate how you can be a help to her? What does she appreciate that could help brighten her day? Start with the simplest easiest thing you can do. Sincerely connect with her and how she’s feeling. If it’s you she’s upset with, take this wise advice I once read.
#1: Share in your own words what your wife is saying. Instead of being DEFENSIVE, try to find a reason to see how you did do what she feels. Then do something about it to let her know that you have a change of heart or attitude. For example, if your wife complains that you spend too much time with your hobby or job, you could make the decision to create a special date night a week to start fulfilling the need for more connection.
#2. Send a thinking about you text throughout the day to encourage your wife that you are there for her.
#3. Write a love letter.
#4. Call your wife just to check up on her.
#5. If you can afford it, buy a small treat that lights her day like a rose or her favorite candy bar.
#6. Persist in kindness and love (even if she’s upset with you).
#7. Don’t take her concerns lightly (just because it wouldn’t bother you).
#8. Respect and value her difference.
#9. Understand that the same sensitiveness she reveals in pain is also what helps her to be a great wife and mother who is there for you when you need it and the children.
#10. DON’T EVER GIVE UP on helping your wife ! God never gave up on us, and your wife has been there for you in the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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Based on results of large-scale survey studies, there is evidence of an association between sexual activity and satisfaction, on the one hand, and aspects of emotional well-being, partner satisfaction, and overall quality of life on the other. Although the nature of the casual relationship is unclear, women with more active and satisfying sexual relationships report consistently higher ratings of emotional and relationship satisfaction. This heightened sense of well-being potentially contributes to improved subjective health and other positive outcomes.

Sex addiction:

Why can’t the person control his or her sexual behavior?

It’s important for you to know that your partner is not volitionally involved in these behaviors so you can begin to understand and, perhaps, forgive. Most addicts would stop if they could.

It’s been said that of all the addictions, sex is the most difficult to manage. This syndrome is a complex mixture of biological, psychological, cultural, and family-of-origin issues, the combination of which creates impulses and urges that are virtually impossible to resist.